The rewards are great for those of us who become open to developing loving compassion for our former partners. The gifts of doing the work are gaining a deep self-love, closure, growth and the ability to attract a future healthy and loving relationship. Here’s a To-Do-List I developed while going through my own ending:
- Be kind with yourself and your mate (even if they are acting mean-spirited)
- Be honest with yourself and your mate, ALWAYS
- Be a good friend (no matter if your mate cannot reciprocate)
- Communicate the ugly real truth
- Communicate the beauty you experienced in your relationship
- Listen to the pain of your mate (even if it hurts)
- Be aware that you are causing pain
- Feel your own pain
- Develop compassion for the jackass that caused you pain. They are human, too
- Know that you are not a human defect
- If you caused pain to another, apologize, apologize and then apologize again
- Look closely at your role in the relationship
- Learn self-discovery–Go deep within–Seek counseling
- Always take the high-road for your own humanity
- Put yourself first even if it means leaving the relationship
- Never take back an ass as they NEVER turn into someone on a white horse
In closing, find a way to:
Forgive, Release, Remember.
Forgive, Release, Remember.
Forgive, Release, Remember…